When it comes to matters of resolving conflict, not resolving the conflict may be a wiser choice. Wait…what?
Well, for starters, when two people are in conflict with one another, the desire is to communicate the issue and pursue a solution. I posit that the solution may not be to resolve the conflict. In order to resolve a conflict, the usual way is that one or more parties settle to the opposing party. Why is this necessary?
Why can’t two people remain in conflict by agreeing to disagree? Why must one acquiesce to the other’s opinion? Are there better ways to put the conflict to rest and move forward in a relationship? Wouldn’t it make more sense to simply understand that not everyone is going to see issues with the same perspective? A healthy relationship is able to nourish the idea that two different people from two different experiences may not have the same perspective.
~Lisa Schiro, M.S., LPC
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