Hello, Lazy. Good-bye Guilt.

 

Stop chasing the moving target.

It is possible to unplug and get lazy without the guilt. Call it self-care. Call it unplugging. Call it going dark. Call it getting off the grid. Call it what you want.

And then — do it. Yes, you can relax and do nothing. In fact, I highly recommend it. Even God took a break. You deserve to take a break, too.

The issue is how does one get lazy without feeling guilty.

Simple.

Give it a time limit with a timer. Or — set a time that the ‘lazy’ will conclude. This is an effective way to do it without feeling bad about it.

And, quit comparing your productivity to high achievers. This is not helpful. And, stop apologizing for being unavailable for a little down time. After all, your cell phone is for your convenience; not everyone else’s.

Do your focused work sans distractions and the do your lazy sans distractions. not only will you be able to restore your energy and your mind, but it will help you feel more in control of your daily activities by squeezing a little lazy into it, as long as there is a time limit.

If you don’t restore your energy with some down time, you may run the risk of allowing your anxious mind to negatively effect your mood and your physical health.

~Lisa Schiro, M.S., LCPC

Reinvent Yourself

You can reinvent yourself; below are some guidelines to make this fundamental shift in your life:

  • Accept discomfort; it’s part of life but often only temporary
  • Careful with your self-talk; your brain cares more about the words you use than anyone else’s words (avoid inflammatory language)
  • Reward yourself along the way
  • Hire a coach
  • Get organized; your outer world is often a reflection of your inner world
  • The most successful people usually have a coach
  • Dress the part
  • Hang onto the friends that make you the best version of yourself
  • Do those activities that boost your confidence in your natural abilities
  • Even though it may feel fake at first, get your thoughts, actions and beliefs in alignment with you short term goal
  • Failures are not failures (unless you give up on your goal); stay in pursuit. Envision every failure as a mere detour sign
  • Know ahead of time that goals are difficult to reach and you will likely encounter many detour signs
  • Break long term goals into shorter goals; working backward is very helpful. A reverse timeline if you will
  • Create habits that move you closer to your short-term goal
  • A good Plan A has a good Plan B in the back pocket
  • Prepare ahead of time how you will stay on course and how you will navigate setbacks