Good Fences Make Good Neighbors

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Your boundaries are social rules of engagements you have with others. A person with healthy boundaries can “No” without guilt. Below are 7 additional ways that will make it easier for you to enforce boundaries.

  1. Know what you are willing to accept and what you are not. Be specific about your limits.
  2. Know what you value the most. Don’t compare your values with others – values are very personal. Determine what is your priority and then live your life keeping your priorities in check.
  3. Stay in touch with your emotional disposition. When your body is having a reaction, don’t avoid it. Listen to your body; it will tell you everything you need to know.
  4. Don’t put others on a pedestal. When you do, you may find yourself discounting the manipulation or abuse they render.
  5. Stop saying “Yes” when your brain is screaming “No.” You will walk away feeling taking advantage of and, worse, defeated.
  6. Be courteous to others. It isn’t about who is right – it is about playing fair (and fighting fair.)
  7. Aggressive is not the same as assertive. Asserting yourself is not only health, but it teaches others how to treat you.

~Lisa Schiro, M.S., LCPC

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